“What is important is not what happens to us, but how we respond to what happens to us.” Jean-Paul Sartre
I have come to acknowledge the fact that life is more complicated than we’d like to believe it is. To take this realization to the next level, I even created my own little theory about that.
You see, although human beings tend to run on a certain supply of optimism or pessimism, that supply remains to be never solely determined by its beholder and here is where the situation becomes tricky!
We always try to rationalize the negatives which happens around us, or to us, in order to try and sustain the levels of optimism that we have. Just like a car running on fuel, our optimism is refueled at certain moments throughout the day, the week, the month or the year and from there on, conserving that level is our duty, whether we are responsible for its possible depletion or not.
As an ex-pessimist to the bone, I can totally understand how pessimists justify their pessimism, especially when relating it to my theory. In their own minds, waiting for the optimism refueling process to occur could be unnerving, even more so devastating, they rather not wait for it to begin with. Moreover, and due to the abundant levels of pessimism and negative occurrences, it seems more rational to them to choose to shy away from optimism and embrace its opposite.
One might wonder why I am trying to dissect this topic and the wondering may become more intense if one realized how early in the morning it is now. Well one, wonder no more! I have recently switched sides going from a semi professional pessimist to a part time happy jolly optimist and now all I do is look for sources of optimism to refuel from! With that said, you can probably tell how hard the transformation was and yet how easy it could be to relapse back to the original state.
What seems to be the most interesting part for me when I sit and ponder about all of this is the fact that optimism tends to be a great magnet for negatives; so the harder you try to be on the positive side, the more negatives you will attract. Furthermore, the events surrounding an optimist are more liable to a wider variety of interpretations, making it harder to “see” the truth behind them consequently causing a tired mind and an exhausted emotional state.
I rest my case!