The Ugly Truth (1)

And You Still Want to Have Kids?


Most women are born with a great instinct: the maternal instinct!


Although many of them work hard to find the “right” man and build the “family” they have always dreamed of, I think only a few of them really consider the facts and statistics about the dangers that these children whom they choose to bring into this world may actually face.

Here are a few examples:

  • Almost five children die everyday as a result of child abuse! Childhelp.org
  • The incidence of suicide attempts reaches a peak during the mid-adolescent years, and mortality from suicide, which increases steadily through the teens, is the third leading cause of death at that age. Surgeon General
  • Every year, millions of children are left alone in or around vehicles. This danger is greatly underestimated, and within a few minutes, your child could be abducted or become trapped in the vehicle’s trunk. WSOC
  • A recent study found that one in five children online is approached by a sexual predator, a predator who may try to set up a face-to-face meeting. MSNBC
  • Each year over 200,000 children are treated in hospital emergency rooms for playground equipment related injuries. The California Injury Lawyer
  • Parents are to be warned of the dangers of giving their young children drinks, sweets and cakes containing specified artificial additives, as a result of new findings being made public for the first time today which confirm their link with hyperactivity and disruptive behavior. Guardian

In addition to the less obvious dangers such as:

  • Being abused by a relative or even the father.
  • Being subjected to bullying at school.
  • Witnessing his/her mother being mistreated or beaten.
  • Getting lost.
  • Being in a car accident.

And many many other situations like these…

Putting all those facts aside, since we human beings always think that bad things happen to others and not our own, I wonder: Why do people really want to have kids?

Here is what I have found out by asking some friends and random people:

  • I want someone to carry my name (How about the rest of the package? The DNA? The bad experiences? The sickness genes? did you consider that?)
  • I want to have a family of my own (Do you really know if this is what’s going to happen when you have a baby? What if your husband walks out? What if you lose your job? Or even better, your mind?)
  • I like kids; they are cute! (Come on, are you serious?)
  • I want to have kids to make it up to myself (How selfish could you be? All you are going to do is make them suffer for the mistakes you made!)

All this and you still want to have kids?

But hey… I am not here to judge so knock yourself out… (or knock someone up for that matter!)

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2 Responses to The Ugly Truth (1)

  1. Ramzi G says:

    IMO our very existence is to reproduce, it's an instinct that we are born with — that's the bottomline. Some people should not have kids, because they can barely take care of themselves, which leads to all the horrible things you wrote about — some people need to have a license to have kids like they do for cars and every other thing in life, because they simply dont know. After I read this post i looked at Gianna and I just simply thought to myself THANK GOD she's a part of my life! and I really think with proper sincere simple parenting she's going to make a positive difference in this world and that is the main reason why I wanted to have children and again so lucky and fortunate she's my daughter.

  2. Anonymous says:

    totally agree with you Ramzi, well thought, from the heart … and the mind

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