Speaking from Experience….

The words “masochism” and “sadism” are widely used terms… I am sure many of you have used them once in their lives or at least heard of them from a movie or maybe just read about them in a book…For those who have been lucky enough not to have gotten acquainted to them…
Masochism is:1. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself.
2. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.
On the other hand, Sadism is:
The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from extreme cruelty.
Why did I choose these two words in particular to discuss here, today?
Well, honestly, I do believe now that many of us underestimate the human need to feel “rejected” or “not loved” from one time to another… This need arises from the inner need for pain and drama…
I will further explain:
Imagine this scenario:
A girl meets X . He falls in love with her and take care of her in every way she ever dreamt of… Yet, she still longs for “that other someone” who did nothing but bring her pain and make her feel so unwanted and insecure yet always stuck around to remind her of her loss…
The girl here is the masochist… She longs for, and may be even enjoys, these feelings of pain and longing… The way her tears fall down her cheeks every night… The fact that she can’t eat or sleep…
“That other someone” is the sadist… He enjoys watching her suffer, hearing her cry and maybe boasting about the whole thing as well… Mind you, he will fall asleep as soon as he places his head on the pillow!
X is just a variable caught up in the middle of the chaos! (The Biggest Loser!)
I know many of you who will take the time to read this post might not agree, but as the title spells out, I’m speaking from experience and I do hope none of you see things the way I do… It’s exhausting…


About outlived

X-dreamer, fighter and writer... Using words to unleash the pain that eats me from the inside out, day after day!
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2 Responses to Speaking from Experience….

  1. zeezazoo says:

    well beebee,all u've said is true… the girl X is the biggest loser here…she is living in a chaos, she is suffering and crying every night, she thinks that her life has stopped here, she thinks that she can do nothing about her life now, she thinks that her life is all about this guy…but all i have to say to this girl is one thing:"This" is only a phase u r going through… it's a hard phase, u r going to need ur friends more than ever, u r going to need ur family, ur work, everything that could take ur mind away from a lot of the illusions that keeps on coming to ur head…stop listening to love songs and stop watching romantic movies and better than that stop believing in them, we all wish life and love were that easy as they put it in songs and movies… take a look at the real life… u've experienced a lot, u r the one who helped me get over my illusions and have a life after all these years..good luck…ur bestfriend is back, and he's here for u, with u…

  2. Anonymous says:

    Ar2our?are you ok???what's wrong?inno i know what you mean bi kil yalle 2ilti,but why ???inno it's an old story?and as you told me and as i know inno you get over it???is he still there ???talking to you???watch out from his net ok,,u know how much i hate to know that your not ok just bcos of that sadist,i'll call you soon.

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